Every family has their own ways of parenting, but there is one thing in common – all parents, when you look back, I want to correct some of the mistakes they have done in the past.
All parents want their children to have a better life. Many of them work in order to be able to buy them new toys, others simply because they want their children to be disciplined and motivated, while others give their children choices and teach them to make their own decisions.
We believe that the first years of a child’s life is a magical time that you should enjoy. Because in the future you may regret the missed opportunities. So read about what sorry parents, in order to avoid repeating the same mistakes, informs Rus.Media.
They communicated with their child
A small child who quickly grows from a child to a relatively self-sufficient person, actually requires constant contact with adults. But the truth is, parents also require this communication. Yes, less free time, and it’s okay if a mother does when her child plays games. But if you turn it into a habit, you may notice that your child has grown up and lives his life. There is no possibility to get back the time that you lost, so try to be physically close to their child, but also mentally with them. Enjoy the time you spend together.
They were often hugging their children
Scientists have proved the importance of hugs for the health (moral and physical). There are many obvious benefits, but you will probably agree that it’s just nice to hug my own child. Sometimes parents do this for different reasons, and most of them are incorrect or outdated (like the tips that tell mothers: “don’t take them too long, they get used to it…”). Over time, the child will grow up and won’t let you take her. So eat up these moments while you still can.
They didn’t do enough photos and videos
Of course, nothing bad will happen if you don’t take pictures. This will not affect the mental state, moral quality or physical health of the child. But it is very likely that in the future you will want to remember some precious moments of your life and share these emotions with older children. Many parents do regret that I have not used the camera more.
You will never look at a video of the fireworks, but you will definitely want to see (more than once) are the first steps that your baby is doing. And photo albums (despite all the devices and technology that we have today) is still the best and most reliable way to preserve precious memories.
They did not write their first words
It’s just good memories. You can easily live without them, but better to have them.
They haven’t played together in creative play
We are not saying that if you play creative games with your child, they will certainly become a great painter or a musician. But there is a chance. First, if you engage your child in various activities, you can learn what they are interested and what you have the inclination. Later you can work on developing their strengths. Second, any activity, for example, reading aloud or playing with toys with them, developing their intelligence, imagination, and increases vocabulary. Finally, you establish the stronger the bond between you and your child. And this is a sufficient basis to do something together.
Experienced parents often regret that I did not notice their children’s talents, although some skills can be noted at a very early age. Ask your child to try different games and read as much as possible.
They were too harsh
It’s one thing to make a point for something, and quite another to constantly complain about. There is a popular myth that the higher the expectations, the more successful it becomes. But actually, it is possible to obtain the opposite effect: behavioral problems and even problems of development. And, of course, one of the disadvantages can be a poor relationship with your children.
Punishment for bad grades is also harmful – they can only reduce overall success in school. Punish and reward your children for what really matters. A bad rating and a broken Cup never making someone unhappy.
They did not take into account your child’s opinion
You’ve probably heard the phrase: “You’re too young to decide” or “Adults know better”, and it is very unpleasant to hear something like this. But the offense your child is not the worst that happens in this case. Children whose opinions are often neglected, can grow very insecure. Actually this makes sense: how can you know what you want from life if there is always someone who makes all the decisions for you?
Let your child choose and to Express their own opinion. It is better to discuss their wishes and to explain things than to ignore it and restrict them.
They did not make their child happy enough
Good memories from our childhood is the most valuable thing that nobody can take away from us. Moreover, a little vacation can turn into greater achievements later: if a child grows up in a healthy atmosphere and has many new experiences, it means that it is actively developing. Happy children are easier to adapt to adult life and to start a new relationship.
Parents also often nostalgic for the time that they spent together. So, enjoy it and not think about how to make your life more interesting. Make sure your child has so many happy moments in your life as possible.
They often listened to others ‘ advice
There are people who love to give advice, even if it’s inappropriate, and young mothers often listen to them. When you see these “experts”, you will hear a lot of information on how to better clothe, feed and educate a child. But the truth is, you are a father or mother, and that you know better than anyone else what is good for your child and what is not. Of course, you can listen these tips, but that doesn’t mean you have to follow them.
And another thing, they should not let strangers tell your child that she is naughty. You should always support a child that he felt your support in every situation. A child should always be able to count on you.
They were not with their children during the most important moments of their lives
Some of the things that we do not seem serious, can be very serious for our children. And all people (especially children) need to parents were there. Even if you think you have a good reason to miss the birthday of your child, don’t do it. In the future you will be sorry when they realize how many important events you missed. Choose a time to decorate the tree, go to the theater, or to visit grandma together. All of these things are important. And when children grow up, you will not be able to repeat those moments.