The polite request is the best way to get the man that you need, writes Naran Xadul.
Everyone likes to turn to them with good words, and children are no exception.
It would seem that this is obvious. Then why are we so often talk with their children differently? Why do we often forget that children understand words differently than adults?
Here are examples of the magic phrases that will allow you to achieve much better results in education:
Instead Of: “Hurry Up!”
Say: “ready… Set… Go!”
Instead of: “If you don’t eat lunch, you won’t get dessert” (threat).
Say: “If you deal with this piece of meat, on the table there will be something that you really love” (promise).
Instead of: “Clean the room!”
Say: “Let’s play magician! Make the whole mess disappear!”
Instead of: “don’t bother me!”
Say: “I’m busy(a), but if you wait five minutes, can I play with you?”
Child wants to wear a favorite shirt, but it is dirty?
Instead of: “Wear the other, the need to wash it!”
Say: “How about today to go to this t-shirt? Don’t you know that this is a very beautiful color?”
Insteadof “get Down, go to sleep!”
Say: “do you know a story about a Prince that…”
Instead of: “Listen to me, and not be punished!” (threat).
Say: “Why are you doing this? You know that this is not good” (an invitation to dialogue).
Instead Of: “Shut Up!” (roughly).
Say: “for now, Let’s leave this conversation, but for now, tell me… (name the topic you want to discuss it)” (politely).
Instead of: “How many times do I have to repeat myself?!”
Think about it: what is here the mistake of the child? It’s your choice to repeat or not! Better to say once, but clearly, and if the child will not listen, then he is to blame for the consequences.
Perhaps, after reading these nine tips, you think that, in practice, relationships with children is much more difficult than in words. Of course, you are right: it is always easier to say than to do. But is that a reason not to?
Try to put yourself in the place of the child, talking in a calm tone of voice and choose polite expressions, do it consistently, and the result will not keep itself waiting long!
How do you talk to that child?