Here are the first signs that You need to look at your partner, You may want to break such a relationship, if You stop to really appreciate.
You want me to do what? Fifty shades of grey is a fictional book, not a tutorial for healthy relationship. Here is a request of your partner that is really worth paying attention to:
It requires you to change your life
To comment on your haircut, or speak about that which they prefer, or wish that you spent less time on something is one thing, but if your partner asks you to change basic things – your career, your religion, school or other things that you think are a core part of your identity is a serious red flag to think about. An important part of staying in a successful relationship is to stop trying to control other people, especially your husband or partner. Instead of trying to change you, a good partner will support you in your goals and plans. And if he doesn’t agree with something serious? Couples with a healthy relationship to talk about it, or private, or together with the psychologist, while the couple will not be able to understand each other, informs Rus.Media.
Your spouse requires a password from your phone
Secrets between partners can be an obstacle in the relationship, but this does not mean that you have no right to privacy. This is especially true when it comes to such things as phone and account in social media. Please view your phone or extortion password is a serious violation of its own borders. If your partner feels the need to constantly check your phone or email, the real problem is that he doesn’t trust you, and this is a question that needs to be solved, not a problem in your gadget. Trust is the Foundation of a healthy relationship in which people respect each other. If you have no confidence, you probably have the wrong partner.
Partner wants to make sure that you are all equally
In a great marriage just isn’t there separation of responsibility is 50: 50. Couples learn to sacrifice and to serve one another, even if it is not true. In fact, in the best relationships it’s hard to say who gives more, because the partners just don’t keep score of who did how much for each other or in the home. Nothing kills love like trying to count who has the most points in cleaning a bathroom or washing the dishes, not to mention the fact that this math is emotionally draining. However, there are periods, such as during a job loss or illness, when you have to do all the hard work, because your partner can not do anything. But these periods tend to balance out, when your partner takes some of the work yourself when you need help. But the key is that one partner will not complain when it’s his turn to give and do it all.
To keep a terrible secret, or to lie for him
You should never feel the heaviness of what you need to store illegal or immoral secrets of your partner or lie about it. Secret and lies of all varieties of harm to your relationship and it would be unfair if your partner will put you in a situation where you have to feel that you have to choose between his love and to do what is right. If your partner has something that makes him hide and lie, the best thing you can do is to let him handle this on his own, as the consequences of his own actions.
To forgive a cheating
Cheating your partner, even “only once”, can and often undermines the relationship. Serious indiscretion can be overcome with therapy, if both partners are willing to work together to cure one of them, but if a traitor asks us to forget about it, or expects you to just move on, because he said he is sorry for the death of your marriage. It is even more harmful if your partner has a history regarding his infidelity. You cannot expect that you can just forgive and forget something as serious as infidelity, if your partner is not willing to accept responsibility for his actions and change.
He asks you to quit your job
Some men show what they men his ability to be the breadwinner in the relationship, and although it is used in some pairs, but it can hurt others, especially if the man requires you to abandon their talents, skills or career prospects, showing thus respect for him. Once couples understand that there is no recipe for the perfect relationship, only then they can open up to happiness, which they would not have had otherwise. Some couples establish, cultivate and create a very happy, successful relationships in which the female partner becomes the primary breadwinner, and the husband brings in much less income, but increases the difference, taking the extra load in the household, caring for children, preparing food and doing other household chores.
He forbids you to say something
Regardless of whether it’s your mom, your ex, or your fantasy about Princess Leia, each of us has an unpleasant topic, which, probably, would not like to say. But avoid to talk about things that affect both people in a relationship can be extremely harmful, especially if your partner denies your right to your feelings concerning these topics. Your partner should never ask you to be silent about their feelings. Retention in such things too toxic for the person, at the time, as talking about it, you will be able to get to the root of the problem. Often people see difficult conversations as an attempt to get pity or to click on another, but this does not mean that the conversations should not happen. Rather what you may need to get advice to help to explore the best communication skills. Your partner should never ask you to stop crying or say that you don’t need to be angry, because your feelings are your feelings.
To put up with his relatives
To deal with the related relationship can be very difficult, because often, your relationship may experience misunderstandings because of relatives. But if you need to respect the relationship of your partner with your family, this does not mean that you must accept that you can insult, humiliate, genovate or otherwise cause damage. Your partner should not ask you to ignore rude or disrespectful things I say to you friends or family. Your partner is a push to how loved ones treat you, so if he allows them to be unkind to you, you have no chance; and if he asks you just not pay attention, the situation will not get better until your partner himself will not talk with loved ones. Your partner should stand behind you and not ask you to ignore bad behavior of his family.
To break off relations with your best friend
Your partner may not love, or even he may not like your sister, your maid or friend of your childhood, but he still needs to respect your relationship with them. Your partner should never ask you to choose between him and someone else, someone you love, or demand that you cut contact with friends or family simply because he or she doesn’t like certain people. It is appropriate to tell them your feelings and to indicate how they perceive these people, how negatively they affect you, but ultimately the decision about who stays in your life depends on you.