Adolescence is a period of changes, it happens very often that mix different emotions and great questions. Parents have an important role in many spheres of life and development of their children, including at the level of sexual education. However, even though studies tend to demonstrate that good communication between parents and adolescents contributes to the development of a sexuality that is more responsible (in terms of prevention of STIS and pregnancy), and even later among youth, discomfort persist ! So here are some tips for facilitating the discussion.
Several people feel discomfort about discussing sexuality with their teens, this is often one of the reasons given for not discussing it. But let’s not kid ourselves, many teens are not comfortable with the idea of hear concepts related to this subject come out of the mouth of their parents ! In this regard, it is essential to know dose the information conveyed, and the time to do it. Generally, the discomfort will be present if one or other of the parties feels obliged to share a slice of life. This is absolutely not necessary. As a parent/guardian, you don’t have to know the intimate details of the lives of your children, and the reverse is also true (the ado to know yours). Once this pressure is removed, the subject can be approached in the same way as another, that is to say, without innuendo. It is necessary to leave space to receive the states of the soul in need, but also crop about and direct them to the right resources.
Like many concepts in the field of education in general, sexuality education is gaining to be said and repeated. The consistency of the discourse allows not only to ensure the transmission of family values important, but also to validate and enhance the information learned. This is why the “conversation” is to focus with the teen.e.s in matters of sexuality, because it offers nice possibilities of a verbal exchange-whether it’s to share opinions or to build a business case for the development of a best judgment regarding multiple situations.
If it is important to focus on key concepts, such as prevention and health promotion, it is also essential to ensure to adopt a discourse that is neither accusatory nor moralizing or judging. Sexuality is global (because it does not live only in the body or the genitals), positive, inclusive, allows for self-fulfillment and should be approached with respect and with awareness of the development psychosexuel and cognitive of the child/adolescent. And it is in this context that it may be addressed in everyday life.
Because it is important to ensure a presence and support, you will benefit as a parent/guardian to determine your limits in order to be able to redirect your teen to reliable resources when they need help, or lighting and that you experience discomfort in discussing it. Then, the ado will not remain without answers, and that will allow him to have the most tools as possible in hand to make the best decisions for his health and well-being.