You have been on a few dates and everything was perfect. You are already thinking about how to officially be his girlfriend, but still in doubt.
Maybe you have been burned in past relationships or long with anyone not met. Maybe all your ex’s were assholes, or are you always unlucky. Any negative experience prevent you from allowing new potential relationships to blossom. And all because you don’t know how to properly start this time. You think: what if you are right for each other? What if he sleeps on the bed? That is, I do not like his parents?
You psych yourself out and hinder the relationship that hasn’t started yet properly! Take a deep breath. If you met a nice guy and you think you might have something happen, there are a few things you should know before you give the green light.
To begin with, to make sure that you are honest with yourself. Because no woman needs to change herself for a man, even if he’s her Prince charming. You’re a smart woman, right?
1. Understand that your past relationships do not define your future.
Whatever went wrong in the past, this does not mean that it will happen again. Your ex cheated on you, but that doesn’t mean new potential boyfriend will be the same. You have to understand that they are two different people, have different character and different behavior. Should not biased now to all the men and immediately suspect and accuse them.
Besides, we learn from past relationships. And if you began to suspect a new young man to the adultery, then you should already know how to do it right this time, to protect yourself from the pain. Think about a new relationship that can start with a clean slate.
2. Always maintain your independence.
Relationships should not be the only source of your happiness. Put yourself first, identify what you like to do – ride a bike, read, do yoga – that is not dependent on anyone else.
Yes, relationships mean to put other people’s interests above their own – but sometimes, you still have the right to be selfish. Don’t forget what makes you happy. Be selfish for themselves and unselfish for your other half.
3. Remember that being single is not a punishment.
This does not mean that something is wrong. And, frankly, to be a lot better than Dating just anyone and be happy to be in a relationship just not to be alone.
When you meet someone, there are no guarantees. But if you don’t feel anything, not worth it to continue. It’s not fair to him and myself. Don’t be afraid to leave again in a single voyage.
4. Do not dwell on the details.
If you focus on the small habits of the guy who irritate you, you will never be able to see whether you have a deeper connection. Everybody has something that do not like it others. But if that’s how he brushes his teeth and rinses his mouth out loud, makes you angry, then the problem is you, not him. Pay attention to more serious things.
5. Love yourself.
Yes, this was already written a hundred times, but that’s because it’s true. If you don’t love yourself, no respect and no appreciation, if you will be a guy, chances are good that he will treat you as you treat yourself – not valued and not respected.
You have to love yourself, know his worth, what you deserve and not settle for less. All this means that before you start a new relationship, you need to devote time to themselves.